Below are a list of suggested book recommendations.
After the Affair: Healing the pain and rebuilding trust when a partner has been unfaithful, Janis Abrams Spring, PhD – After the Affair is the first book that explains to partners how they can help themselves through the shattering crises of an infidelity. Dr. Spring offers a series of original and proven strategies that address such crucial questions as: Why did the affair happen? Once love and trust are gone, can we ever get them back? Can I – should I – recommit when I feel so ambivalent? How do we become sexually intimate again? Is forgiveness possible? (See also How Can I Forgive You?)
The Beck Diet Solution: Train your brain to think like a thin person, Judith S. Beck, PhD – The first book to utilize proven Cognitive Therapy techniques for dieting. The Beck Diet Solution is a breakthrough approach for anyone truly serious about making long-term lifestyle changes and losing weight permanently. Based on 20 years of experience successfully counseling dieters in her practice, Dr. Judith Beck’s six-week step-by-step Cognitive Therapy-based program will help you change your eating behaviors by training your brain to “think like a thin person.” It will give you the mental and emotional tools you need to stick with any diet you choose, lose weight, and keep it off forever. (Book and workbook).
Codependent No More: How to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself, Melody Beattie – Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency – the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another – has struck a universal chord among those struggling with a loved one’s self-destructive behavior. Codependent No More has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves.
Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the life you were meant to live, Martha Beck – Beck shares her step-by-step program that will help you take the exhilarating and frightening journey to your own ideal life. Finding Your Own North Star will teach you how to read your internal compasses, articulate your core desires, identify and repair the unconscious beliefs that may be blocking your progress, nurture your intuition, and cultivate your dreams from the first magical flicker of an idea through the planning and implementation of a more satisfying life. Beck offers thoroughly tested case studies, questionnaires, exercises, and her own trademark wit and wisdom to guide you every step of the way.
Getting Unstuck: Breaking through your barriers to change, Dr. Sidney B Simon – Stuck is making promises and breaking them, staying in that dead-end job, sticking with a marriage that doesn’t work, feeling unhappy about who you are and what you’re doing. Getting Unstuck is a challenging plan for breaking down your stubborn resistance to change; a “values grid” to clarify your goals and desires and to help you deal with indecisiveness; techniques for building your self-esteem; imaging and affirmation exercises to help you overcome fears; eight ways to get cooperation and support from the people you love.
How Can I Forgive You? The courage to forgive, the freedom not to, Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD – Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring proposes a radical life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives – without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness – one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us. (See also After the Affair)
How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies, Therese A. Rando, PhD – Mourning the death of a loved one is a process all of us will go through at one time or another. But whether the death is sudden or anticipated, few of us are prepared for it or for the grief it brings. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; each person’s response to loss will be different. Therese A. Rando, PhD, bereavement specialist, leads you gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving and helps you find the best way for yourself.
The Mindful Woman: Gentle practices for restoring calm, finding balance and opening your heart, Sue Patton Thoele – Imagine a day in which you can be in the midst of chaos but maintain a clear head and sense of balance and focus and have your feet firmly planted on the ground. Even the busiest of women among us has the ability to embrace mindfulness and will reap the benefits of doing so! This book offers over sixty-five simple and effective practices to help you embrace mindfulness one moment at a time.
Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making two homes for your child, Isolina Ricci, PhD – Can children flourish in any custody situation? The answer is a resounding yes. This unique ground-breaking classic, which has become the standard for two generations of parents, is again breaking new ground – revised, updated and expanded – with examples, self-tests, checklists and guidelines. This comprehensive guide looks anew at the needs of all concerned with even more creative options and commonsense advice to the legal, emotional, and practical realities of creating two happy and stable homes for your children.
Pursuit of Perfect, Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD – We’re all laboring under society’s expectation to be perfect in every way – to look younger, to make more money, to be happy all the time. But the pursuit of “perfect” may actually be the number one obstacle to finding happiness. Ben-Shahar provides self-reflective exercises, meditations, and “Time-Ins” to help you rediscover what you really want out of life.
Rebuilding: When your relationship ends, Dr. Bruce Fisher and Dr. Robert Alberti – If you’re hurting after a divorce, you need this supportive step-by-step program for putting your life back together. This revised and updated third edition offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants to help you get through the confusing and often painful process.
Resurrecting Sex: Solving sexual problems and revolutionizing your relationship, David Schnarch PhD – Renowned sex and marital therapist Schnarch will help you create erotic and meaningful sex out of severe or long-standing difficulties, or common sexual boredom. Whether you’re a golden-anniversary marriage, a newly formed couple, or single, this heartwarming guide will completely change how you think about sex and sexual relationships.
The Self-Esteem Workbook, Glenn R. Schiraldi, PhD – The simple, effective program for mastery of liking yourself, conquering self-doubt, seeing your core worth, rational thinking, body appreciation, affirming thoughts, enlarging possibilities, flop inoculation, forgiving yourself, loving meditation and liking the face in the mirror.
So Long, Insecurity: You’ve been a bad friend, Beth Moore – “We’re insecure. You and me and every woman. Lately I’ve been realizing that insecurity is a cultural epidemic, but almost no one is talking about it. We’re insecure about everything from our looks to our worth as women, from our relationship to our futures, and everything in between. It doesn’t have to be this way. It’s time to say ‘So long!’ to insecurity.” – Moore combines validation with stories from her own life as well as others, insight and direction and a faith in God to help see the possibilities when we let go of our insecurities.
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A step by step guide to help you decide whether to stay in or get out of your relationship, Mira Kirshenbaum – To make up or break up? Whether you’re just getting serious or have a long-term commitment, no other question causes so much heartache and self-doubt. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should try – or you need to go.
Why Does He Do That? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men, Lundy Bancroft – He says he loves you. So…why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men – and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive or leave an abusive relationship.